You can always find someone to agree with your decisions. Whether they are right or wrong! You can find someone who will support you. Isn’t that crazy! You can find a voice that will tell you, “Do what makes you happy.” “You deserve this” “Follow your heart.”
But when your closest family and friends raise concerns and you feel as if you should forge ahead without their support, that often leads to disaster. Pay attention to your true support network. If your mother, your best friend of twenty years and your favorite cousin all have concerns about Mr. Wonderful, then chances are there is something to it.
The man God has for you is a divine piece to the puzzle. He will fit. I’m not suggesting that there will be perfect harmonious blending of all facets from day one. I am suggesting that if World War III breaks out at the mention of his name, then you may want to take some time to consider the reasons that those closest to you are raising. There is NO conspiracy against your happiness.
When my god-daughter shared with me that she was considering marriage, I gave her a piece of advice that I hope influenced her. I told her to go through pre-marital counseling, but only with a counselor/pastor whose yes or NO she would respect. When we don’t care whether they deem us ready or not ready, then the counseling has no power.
Prize sisters – Promise me that you will respect the concerns of your closest family and friends. They DO want you to be happy. They DO want you to succeed. They WILL want to celebrate with you in the high times, and even though they will lift you up if the bottom falls out, they DON’T want to see you hurting or heartbroken.
Nothing hurts more than to see a loved one drowning in sorrow because she didn’t want to or chose not to heed the numerous warnings from those who truly love her.
Whose YES do your respect? Whose NO would you reject? Honestly evaluate your circle and make a list of your review committee. There are people in my circle who give me godly, good feedback. I respect their opinions, and when I have questions they can point me to the word of God or pray for me so that I can hear from God clearly.
Meditate on these scriptures:
Psalm 37:30-32 The godly offer good counsel; they teach right from wrong. They have made God’s law their own, so they will never slip from his path.
Proverbs 11:14 Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counselors there is safety.
Who is in your circle? Who needs to be in? Who needs to be out? Give it some thought an share with us!
Leave a comment for us about the people whose opinion you really value.