We don’t always understand the reason we go through terrible relationships. Some leave emotional scars, while others leave gaping gashes and terrible wounds. When we experience something awful one thing is for sure – healing is needed. I love that Jesus Christ is able and willing to set us free from the memories and wounds that attempt to hold us prisoner. When people would flippantly suggest to me, “Give it to Jesus,” I would not my head and smile through the tears but my heart was screaming out, “HOW?” Hang with me to learn HOW TO HAND IT OVER TO THE Savior.
1. Admit that you are hurting.
When we have experienced a traumatic situation, many times we tell ourselves we are OK. We lie to ourselves just to keep it moving Here is the thing – the truth makes us free, so if we buy into the lie of, “I’m fine,” then we create a mask that becomes a prison and keeps us from breathing freely. We keep swallowing in the same air that will eventually suffocate us. One of the things about women who can never admit that they are hurt is they become masterful at hiding it from others, which then makes them carry the whole burden alone. God didn’t design us for life that way. Now I’m not suggesting tell the whole world all of your business, but admit first to God and then to a trusted Christian that you are hurting. Allow them to pray for you and encourage you in the word of God. Confession opens the door for God to come into the situation. When He steps in – the game changes. Admit to God what has hurt you – and who has hurt you. Ask Him to show you hurts that you didn’t even know you were harboring. Speak then take time to listen.
2. Confess to Christ where you have neglected to let Him in.
When we admit that we are hurting, chances are we have shut Christ out in a few other areas. I have allowed myself to struggle and shut Christ off, because I wanted to rely on my own help instead of His. I felt like I didn’t deserve His love. I treated God like a human, hoping to win His approval through my deeds, but it was quite the opposite. God won’t be more proud of me if I do things on my own – without His help. His heart smiles when I rely on Him to do all things. When I am weak, He loves to be my strength. What are the areas of your life where you have shut God out in favor of your own wisdom and strength? Confess those areas and ask for forgiveness.
3. Begin the process of allowing God to show you His plan for healing and redemption.
Invite God into the very places where you shut Him out. Ask Him for forgiveness and then ask Him to show you how to forgive the one that hurt you. Ask Him to show you how to forgive yourself. When you have been in a relationship that went wrong for whatever reason and left you emotionally scarred we have to trust God’s Word that He can do exceedingly abundantly above all we can ask or even think. So get a vision of yourself whole and healed, and know that God will supersede your happiest image of yourself. He can take the very relationship that you thought you would never recover from, and show you that in HIM, it made you better and stronger for the right man. You will even be able to pray blessings over the wrong man for giving you what my friend calls, “the gift of goodbye.” Tell God where it hurts. Ask God to heal you. Commit to a number of days in prayer to confess, ask for forgiveness, and listen for His plan. Share your commitment with a friend who can pray for you and with you as you discover God’s redemptive plan for your life. (or share it with us here on our prayer list)
Commit this scripture to memory Jeremiah 29:11-14. Know that He will meet you right where you were taken captive by your wounds, and restore you to the place promised for you – peace and joy belong to you. They are only found in Him.
Happy Healing. KickHellOut of your past and find your purpose! HAND IT OVER!!!! Enjoy this song.
What are some ways that you have learned to give your struggles to Christ? Help us all with what you have learned. Leave a comment below!