Imagine Your Victory Freedom Pages

Is Your Opinion Your god?

Just another day scrolling through Facebook, when I see a post that arrests me. I literally scrolled up and then back down in an attempt to make what I saw disappear or reappear with someone else’s name attached. How could it be that people I’ve known, sat with, worshipped with, prayed with could post such cruelty and ridiculously racist rhetoric. It used to happen every once in a while, and I would attempt some inbox dialogue or pray that other leaders or pastors would be so alarmed that love would lead them to seek a conversation. The comments or posts…
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Three Steps to Maintaining Emotional Safety

  I have a family member that struggles with drug addiction.  I want to start off by saying that she is a member of my family and I love her.  Many times in my interactions with her, I have to remember that the drugs are in the forefront – speaking, manipulating, coniving, plotting.  The sickness is leading most of the time.  There are times of clarity and sobriety that I enjoy with her.  I want to be filled with grace and hope when interacting with her, but I also want to use wisdom and operate in clarity to keep my…
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Thoughts on Race

  Episode 1:  I accidentally bumped into a guy in the hallway in high school.  I said, “I’m sorry.”  He said, “Watch where you are going black bitch!” Episode 2:  In college I’m working in the tutoring center.  A young lady enters and says, “I need help.  But not from some nigger off the street like her.” I was the only black person in the room. I stand up. The room freezes. She runs out. Episode 3:  In an upper level English class my professor explains how African drummers were too stupid to use a stick to play the drums,…
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Imagine Having Great Friends.

Imagine the best friend you could possibly think of – and then become that friend for someone else. Imagine the circle of friends you deeply desire – then begin the process of healing from the broken friendships that went sour. Imagine life with women who admitted their own imperfections, and extended grace for the imperfect people around them. Imagine being a woman who actually can actually trust again, and begin the process of tearing down the walls that keep potential friends on the acquaintance side of the fence. Imagine being whole, and embracing the fact that life after hurt starts…
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Common Core Aging

Working on a common core math problem with my son, led me to a striking realization.  If I rounded to the nearest ten, my age was now closer to the higher number than the lower number.  With all the enthusiasm an eight year old could manage to gather my son yelled out, “If the number is HIGHER than five we must round UP!”  ”I know. I know,” I reasurred him.  He was unaware that I was having an internal mommy moment. Rounding up proved to be a sad reality for me that time was moving fast.  Though I had frozen…
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GIRL, YOU NEED TO LIGHTEN UP!

Five Ways to Know You Need to Lighten up We are all juggling stuff –   husbands, doctor appointments, kids, church, obligations, working, not working, housework, schoolwork, projects, personal improvement – and the list goes on!  Many of the appointments on our agenda are mandatory, obligatory, heavy and downright hard.  That load can WEIGH US DOWN!  Girl!  Here are some signs that it’s time to lighten up. 1.  When you run into people and they ask you if you are okay (with that look of deep concern on their faces)?   This means you look like hell has broken loose…
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5 Real Reasons You Don’t Have Friends (and how to make new ones)

I was really content with my small circle of friends.  I had a crew to shop with, eat with, vent to, and do our Christian version of partying.  I mean those women totally understood me.  They didn’t judge me.  They encouraged and inspired me.  MY CREW!  Then things went a little haywire with one moving to another city, but she was still within a couple of hours.  Then the other was swept off her feet by a soldier in shining armor and whisked away to Alaska.  Then one passed away.  So I went from chilling with my girls to all…
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My Name Is…

I remember the hot day blurred by the excitement of my 8th grade graduation. Many of us girls attempted our first go round in wearing high heels that were not our mothers’ that day. It was the kind of humid that morphs my hair from curls to a gentle afro. Smooth! As we celebrated in true middle school fashion none of us stayed in one place too long. I felt like everyone was calling my name. I had to rush from one spot to another to make sure I was in as many pictures as possible. After posing for a…
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Love is Patient

God is slowing me down to appreciate His word in small bites.  Today’s snack – “Love is patient.” Walk with me slowly through this meditation.   When I became a wife, I kind of thought that I would need a couple of months – maybe a year to “get it right.”  I thought that the learning curve would be like learning to ride a bike:  you fail – you learn – you never forget.  Love is patient – for  a reason. When I married my husband I pledged my love for as long as I live.  Why is marriage forever?…
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Sexual Healing

When did you know you needed it?  Was it after the rape or possibly the second you saw that first naked image, was it when trust was broken and shame was carried. Was it after he snapped the pic and you didn’t have proof but you felt like your body had been shared? Was it the inappropriate touch at a sleepover or a friend who became an intimate foe? Was it the abortion?  Was it the guilt of admitting there had been too many partners to remember them all or even worse the fleeting thought that some may not even…
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